We often struggle with the decision, should I stay or should I go? Marriage is hard work. And we aren’t afraid of work, but we are afraid that things might never change. And living in turmoil from one problem or another can weigh down on you like a burden worth shedding.
Learn how our expert guest blogger, Patricia Bubash, suggests you deal with these trying times and what questions to ask when determining to work it out or let it go.
The Roller Coaster Ride Called Marriage
Multiple marriages author, Pamela Evans, notes in her book, The Ring EXchange, the number of couples who divorce, then marry again- each other:
Ending a marriage is not an easy task. Not only is the expense high in emotional cost, but monetarily. There are legal fees, two new residences to find, alimony, child support, etc.
How much better for a couple to make sure the marriage is salvageable?
My suggestions for a couple contemplating divorce: make a list of the “positives and negatives” of the relationship. Even consider what they would miss if not living under the same roof. Think about the high points in the marriage, and the lows, and how they worked through those tough times-as a couple, a team.
Remember all marriages have hills and valleys. The valleys can be the catalyst for calling it quits, but if a couple can walk through the valley together, climb that hill together, what an accomplishment, how satisfying., how mutually rewarding.
Just ask my mom and dad: over six decades of climbing!
How have you gotten through the valley’s in your marriage?