Everyone suffers when a family goes through a divorce. We are often concerned most about how everything will affect our children. Learn how to cope with your feelings and theirs while going through a divorce.
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Kids are perceptive little beings, and SO smart. Make sure that if you are having a tough day or moment, and become emotional, that you let your kids know that they are not responsible for taking care of or fixing your feelings. They need to know that you are taking care of yourself so that they can handle their own feelings. If you have a hard time doing this, get some help from a professional!
Crystal Clancy, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Nystrom & Associates, Ltd.
Two Homes with Two Parents
No matter which parent a child lives with, make sure the children know that they have two parents and that you will assist them as often as possible to see the non-domiciled parent. Through email, text messaging, phones calls; they are not children of “single parent. As you recognize that the children are coping, you will cope better. Your children will recognize that their needs are being attended to and they will value your effort. Your children are not responsible for your anger, hurt, tears and regret and they need to have BOTH parents in their lives, regardless of your emotional issues.
John R. Morella, Ph.D., Retired psychologist/author, John R. Morella, Ph.D., Author
