How Do I Cope with Jealousy in My Marriage?

FizzNiche June 6, 2012 2
How Do I Cope with Jealousy in My Marriage?

It is easy to become jealous of our spouse’s friendship with another woman.  We may worry that she is fulfilling something in a part of his life that we can’t reach.  But, is that really all bad?

Learn what intimacy expert, Allana Pratt, says about opposite-sex friendships in marriage and how to manage your own feelings of jealousy or insecurity.

Good Men Use Freedom Well

By Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt

You can’t be all things to all people, so you certainly can’t fulfill every need of your partner. So one bumps up against the wall of where they end and the unknown begins… will he cheat? Will she forget about me? Will I become obsolete?

What’s really being triggered is ‘Do I love me enough to trust life, that no matter what I’ll be OK?’

Do I love him unconditionally enough to know even if he enjoys playing tennis with her more than me, am I still enough AND can want what’s best for his life, not what makes me feel safe?

Do I love her unconditionally enough to know that when she takes ballroom classes with him, that she’s more alive and I know she still chose ME as her man?

In my practice, I see that distrust breeds distrust, and that Good Men (or women) use freedom well. Giving space with trust while valuing your own worth is very sexy.

Yet at the same time, don’t be blind or numb to your intuition if this new ‘friend’ is really a replacement for a lack of intimacy in your own bedroom. Be willing to sit in the fire, be transparent, vulnerable and open to having those uncomfortable conversations, that when done with honesty and respect, bring every couple closer.

Allana Pratt, President, Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert & Relationship Coach

How have you overcome jealousy issues in your marriage?


2 Comments »

  1. Allana Pratt June 7, 2012 at 4:11 pm - Reply

    FizzNiche! I am deliciously grateful that you have posted my tips about coping with jealously in marriage or dating. This is such an important topic that can make or break a relationship! Thank you again, and let me know how I can continue to support relationships thriving and families flourishing! Blessings, Allana

    • FizzNiche June 7, 2012 at 4:17 pm - Reply

      Thank YOU for sharing your expertise with our readers, Allana!

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