If you are staying in a marriage “for the sake of the children“, you may want to read this article by counselor and author, Julia Simens. She gives us her straight forward thinking on how relationships are nurtured and strengthened. Julia shares that staying together for the kids may be completely counterproductive.
Learn how creating emotional bonds with your children will be a much more effective form of parenting than being stuck in a one-sided relationship filled with tension.
In It For the Kids: Techniques that Ruin Your Life
Many moms will want to stay in a bad situation for the benefit of the children having “a Dad”. This is one technique that will ruin your relationship with your child. If a child sees and hears their parents fighting all the time, they can become scared that their relationship with their mom or dad will be similar full of anger and pain.
Putting your spouse before your child is a bad technique if he wants out of the relationship. It is vital that your child connects to you. The strongest deterrent to teenage high risk behavior is a strong emotional connection between your child and yourself. Good relationships create resilience to dangerous acting our behavior in your child.
The third technique to avoid is not giving your child evidence of his/her significance. Children seek reassurance of the strength of their attachment to a parent by wanting evidence of their significance. This means that you should spend more time on your connection to your child and move on and away from someone who does not love you.
Julia Simens, Counselor and Author, Emotional Resilience and the Expat Child
How have you nurtured your bond for the sake of the children as a single parent?
Thanks so much for using my tips. This is a very valuable site for many people. Looking over some past posts, information was amazing.
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